Too Much Information

Seriously? You Want To Share That?

When you think of information exchanged during a second date, what do you think of? Typical follow up questions to things learned on the first date? Maybe more detail about siblings, or where you grew up, or how you ended up in your current occupation. All pretty superficial and surface, right?

Apparently I have been doing it wrong, as one girl taught me that there is so much more to be shared on the second date.

Several years ago I met an amazing young woman who was a vision to behold. She was beautiful, happy, intelligent and at first meeting, every guy wanted to date her. She was one of those girls that walks into the room and all eyes turned to watch her. Male eyes to admire...female eyes to abhor with jealousy.

Being the suave and confident fellow that I am, I was one of the first to ask her out for an evening on the town after she had recently moved in. I was a lucky man. Or so I thought.

Our first date actually went pretty well. We had a good time, enjoyed conversation, and enough interest was piqued that a second date was planned. However, as those of you who have been on second dates know too well...the first date is when they put on the "persona" they want to appear as. After that, putting their best foot forward falls by the wayside and you learn who exactly it is you just shelled out $40 bucks for Macaroni Grill on.

We were well into the meal, enjoying great conversation and joking about the resume requirements the wait staff had to demonstrate to show Mac Grill customers how simple and easy it is to write your name on the paper table cloth with crayons really is...upside down.

Suddenly though, conversation took a turn to a more personal level.It was still light-hearted and casual, but the topic turned to children...specifically, HAVING children. More to the point, US HAVING children.

In one breath she had steered the conversation on our SECOND date, to an outlined calendar of our engagement plans, when we could expect to get married, how long the honeymoon would be, and on what DAY we could plan to get pregnant.

WE? Get PREGNANT? At this point, I didn't think that was possible for me. Still unsure of that.

As I sat there, trying to wrap my mind around the hairpin turn that this conversation had taken in less than a few moments, I mentally reeled back to consider how long I had actually known this girl:

Sunday: Met her for the first time
Monday: First date
Tuesday: Second date - Having Children Talk

Yep...less than 72 hours had passed since meeting her.

I re-registered my attention to the conversation that was continuing on when she stated in no uncertain terms that she was knew her ovulation cycle so well she could pin point the exact moments that we could plan on conception.

Her Ovulation Cycle?

Having three sisters, I knew somewhat what this term meant, or what it surmised. However, to leave me with no doubts, she launched into a very, very in-depth description of her ovulation cycle, what exactly was going on physically, psychologically and emotionally, and what I could expect since I was going to be there for it...all of it.

I know...I know...a sane guy would have called it quits with that date and moved on.

But she was really, really hot.

So Wednesday held the third date. Where she told me she loved me.

There was no fourth date.